Rules of Life & Business 19/50:
Never Compare Yourself To Others
Learn from Others
And Grow Everyday with them
People sometimes compare themselves to others, why?
Mostly because they want what the other has
They want to look like the other
They want to live their life like the other
The main reason many people do this is because we are in a society where people think about what other people think of them; from what name brands they wear, how they look like or act, etc.
We compare ourselves with someone who we perceive as BEING, HAVING or DOING more.
We are in a society that many people don’t want to work towards what they really want.
Many are lazy.
They DON’T DESIRE IS THAT BAD!
They don’t think they have the ability to do it…
Many people think they cannot get what others have because they “just can’t”.
They find different excuses like “I have no money” “I have no time” or “I’m not as smart as they are” and what ever other excuses they find rolled up their sleeve…
Many people, women especially, are not satisfied with what they look like that they pay big $$$ to change their look.
They simply don’t love themselves enough and or they want people to be admired by them for something they are not or don’t have.
Many people do this or something similar on a regular basis.
At work and at play.
What do they get out of it?
On the outside it makes them feel great because people are admiring them.
But on the inside, they are weak and the love towards themselves is not strong at all.
This is the best recipe to have a drop in your self-confidence, unhappiness and self-esteem.
Why do people want to feel less confident, unhappy and have little self-esteem?
IT’S ALL ABOUT NOT KNOWING WHAT TO DO, WHEN TO DO IT AND HOW TO DO IT.
Once you remove the word NOT you’ll notice a HUGE CHANGE:
IT’S ALL ABOUT KNOWING WHAT TO DO, WHEN TO DO IT AND HOW TO DO IT.
1- FIND SOMEONE THAT HAS SUCCEEDED IN WHAT YOU WANT TO SUCCEED IN, HAVE WHAT YOU WANT TO HAVE, LIVE HOW YOU WANT TO LIVE.
2- SPEND TIME LEARNING AND GROWING FROM THEM
3- CHANGE YOUR DAILY HABITS TO FIT THE PICTURE YOU WANT TO PAINT OF YOURSELF
4- CHOOSE WHAT YOU WANT TO BE, DO AND HAVE
When people know that they can feel so much better than they presently feel, they will take the steps to make the right changes.
It’s now YOUR TIME to be able to recognize your own strengths, see your true value and accept how God made you as beautiful as you are.
It’s time to look at your own strengths, see your true value and believe in yourself.
This is the KEY to your success in life and business.
Without having this ability you will not be motivated to do anything for yourself
Believe in yourself!
TIME TO START WORKING ON YOURSELF TODAY!
My advice to get you started:
Everyday as you go to work, as you go outside, as you go see your friends, wherever you go… BE AWARE when you start comparing yourself to others.
ONCE YOU DEVELOP THIS AWARENESS, you’ll notice that you are wanting to stop and you’ll tell yourself “TO STOP!”
Then you need to start thinking about all the things that you DO HAVE, the things that YOU LOVE, and be THANKFUL for the life that God has given you.
Once you do this on a regular basis, you will notice your self-confidence, happiness and self-esteem will sky rocket and you will feel like never before. You will shine. You will be so bright that people will be attracted by your true light.
7 Principles to Breaking Your Habit of Comparing Yourself to Others
1- BE AWARE: When we do something everyday it is part of our habits. Once you are aware of this habit you want to change or improve, you will BE AWARE.
Become conscious — Start by having the intention to become conscious. Bring your thoughts to the forefront of your consciousness by being aware and have a lookout for them. Once you are focusing on your thoughts, you will notice how much easier it will be for you to notice yourself. When you practice everyday, you’ll notice it will be part of your everyday habits and you will not even notice or think about it anymore.
2- STOP YOURSELF: Once you are conscious and aware, acknowledge and STOP.
Once you notice that you are doing this:
a) STOP: Do something else.
b) CHANGE YOUR WAY OF THINKING: Think of something else.
c) CHANGE YOUR FOCUS: Focus on something else.
Sometimes it won’t be easy.
Just remember ALWAYS keep in mind that If you don’t start it will never happen.
So the question is…. when will you start?
3- STOP JUDGING YOURSELF: it will take considerable amounts of work, patience and mindfulness to stop judging yourself.
-control your behaviour: know that you are not worth any judgement
-know that whoever judges you has a lot of work to do on themselves
-know why you judge yourself. Work on shifting your awareness to a loving discernment and free yourself of negativity.
-Treat yourself as you treat others. Figure out how you can help another with their challenges, and what you need to put in place when it comes to helping YOU.
4- GIVE OUR BRAIN SOMETHING ELSE TO DO: Redirect your thoughts to the PRESENT MOMENT and keep the comparison within.
-Stop your negative thoughts
-Sometimes your past has been so heavy that you can’t think of something else. YOU NEED TO FIND OUT WHAT IT IS THAT IS KEEPING YOU THERE.
-Then it will make it easier for you to think of something else.
Look at the NOW.
HOW CAN YOU MAKE NOW BETTER?
5- FOCUS ON OUR STRENGTHS: Only you can do this. STOP looking at your weaknesses and focus on your strengths.
As Michelangelo said, “Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it.”
How well we do this is our measurement. As long as you know YOUR block of stone is yours, it doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing with THEIR block of stone. Your block of stone is the only one you should be working on. Now this is your business. FOCUS ON YOUR BUSINESS. Use your strengths to your best advantage. Do it with honour, compassion, care for self and belief.
6- ACCEPT YOUR IMPERFECTIONS: Love yourself for who you are. The problem lies really in our feelings and our self-talk. We tend to judge ourselves, and we decide that we criticize our past instead of talking about it to a neutral listener.
First know that you and no one on this earth is perfect BUT God.
An amazing exercise I helped someone was:
1- Close your eyes
2- Picture yourself looking in the mirror as you want yourself to be.
3- What do you see?
Don’t chase perfection to receive recognition.
The right people will see you for who you are.
Don’t be afraid.
Just do what you have to do to feel amazing.
Focus on your journey!
7- LEARN TO SELF-LOVE, ACCEPT YOURSELF AND BE GOOD TO YOURSELF: Love yourself no matter what. Accept yourself for who you truly are.
-Be positive everyday. Tell yourself something positive everyday. Anything that makes you smile.
-Eat well, exercise and take care of yourself.
-Don’t believe everything you think. Do you remember that picture of the devil on one shoulder and the angel on the other shoulder…. don’t listen to the devil…. he wants you to sink. Be strong and listen to the angel side of yourself.
-Surround yourself with people who love you and encourage you. End all toxic relationships.
-Celebrates all your wins, whether they are big or small. Always be proud of what you have achieved.
-Step out of comfort zone and do something for yourself that you’ve always wanted to do.
-Take YOU TIME everyday. We always seem to forget about yourselves… NEVER FORGET ABOUT YOURSELF!!
-Follow your passion. What do you love to do? What haven’t you done in many years and you still call it your hobby? Go DO IT!
-Be grateful for what you have everyday. Be grateful for waking up. Be grateful for all you are and who you will become.
-MOST IMPORTANT: HAVE FUN!!!!! Go out there and do what makes you shine, feel amazing everyday. Do what makes you SMILE 🙂
REMEMBER ONLY YOU CAN BE COMPLETELY YOU!
NO ONE WILL DO IT FOR YOU!
MAKE YOUR DAY AMAZING BECAUSE ONLY YOU CAN!